What Is A Bride's Worst Fear? You May Be Surprised...

Over the weekend we were listening to the John Tesh show (cheesy, yes, but we don't really care) and he made note of something that really took us by surprise. He said, that according to a recent Modern Bride poll, the thing that brides fear most about their wedding is the best man's speech. They are worried that the best man will reveal some embarrassing story or private information that will humiliate the couple. Now this really shocked us, until I remembered attending a wedding of a college roommate a few years back and witnessing a best man's speech that was so demeaning and horrific the bride ran off in tears. The best man used every cliche' phrase available on the internet, right down to "A marriage is a three ring circus. The first is the engagement ring, the second is the wedding ring, and the third is suffering." The worst part is that the groom just stood there with a smile on his face all the while his bride, the woman he just vowed to love and protect, was in the bathroom surrounded by her bridesmaids balling her eyes out. Needless to say, their marriage didn't last too long.

So what is a girl to do if she's worried the best man, her groom's most devoted sidekick will ruin the day with some unflattering words? Here are some tips to keep your best man censored...

1. Ask your maid of honor and your best man to work together on a joint speech. Your maid of honor knows you like the back of her hand, and she would never allow a crazy best man to ruin your day. So stick her in charge of keeping the speech tamed and under control.

2. Talk to your wedding coordinator about whipping the best man into shape. Share your concerns with your wedding coordinator and let him or her be in charge of the best man. Your coordinator can ask for a rough draft of the speech and offer pointers on what he should edit.

3. Ask your groom to step up to the plate and sit down with the best man ahead of time. Chances are if they are really that good of friends, any requests made by the groom will be honored by the best man.

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